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by Jeffrey T. Brownstein, 3/7/08
There is a HUGE difference between telling and sharing. Both have their place, but...
When you 'tell' something to somebody, it tends to come across like a one-sided documentary - a rehearsed story, with regurgitated facts and plenty of opinions. At its best, it provides information and sheds light. At its worst, it takes the form of gossiping, complaining, and commiserating.
When you 'share' something with someone, you invite that person into your world. There is openness and warmth. Possibility is present, and can be felt almost viscerally. You create something brand new, even if the topic is familiar. And even if we don't set out to do so intentionally, there's a good chance the other person will be inspired to create something in their life too!
So what's present in sharing that's not present in telling? Real feelings! (Law of Attraction alert)
There's a connection piece that's missing when we tell in lieu of share. As you just read, you tell 'to' someone, and you share 'with' someone. Telling (as the word implies) can effectively close off a good deal of genuine relatedness. Sharing (by its very nature) opens a flow of give-and-take where speaker and listener become both - speaker and listener. And often, it's in your listening where the richest seeds of growth stand to germinate fastest. (there's a Spring reference in there somewhere!)
The best way to get into the practice of living a life of sharing is to become a conscious observer each time you speak. Do words rush out of your mouth on autopilot? Do you find yourself more concerned with how you appear than what is actually being said? Can you sense a detachment from any real feelings as you're talking?
If you find many of your conversations unfolding (for lack of a better word) unconsciously, grounding yourself back in the present moment is a good place to start. Then, if you focus on putting your most genuine self forward - in other words, letting the real you shine through - you'll likely feel yourself relaxing into what is effectively 'the essence of your being'. Finally, when you allow your true feelings into the game (and no - your beliefs, opinions, and judgments are NOT your feelings), that's when the real magic happens.
Though you may not choose to share with everyone (of course you certainly can!), understand this: What you attract into your life is in direct correlation with how you feel about something. When you share yourself unselfishly, you open perhaps the widest gateway to the most sparkling gems inside you. Even better, you're likely to unlock that for someone else in the process! And once this happens, Law of Attraction immediately begins to work in ways you never before imagined.
So what is it that really inspires you? There are so many people just waiting to share in your dreams.
Until next time...
With love,
-Jeff
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