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Lifescaper Coaching: "Allowing Others"
by Jeffrey T. Brownstein, 6/1/07
You know, if everyone else would just get their act together...
C'mon, admit it. You've felt this way about somebody at least once today, haven't you? Perhaps a friend or family member did something to annoy you. Maybe the drive-thru employee screwed up your lunch order. Or your significant other said something that pushed your buttons. These are just a few everyday examples of how we don't allow others to be who they are.
The easiest way to tell whether you're in 'allowing mode' (like everything else with Law of Attraction) is to pay close attention to your feelings. When you observe or interact with someone, do you feel compassion and kindness for them? Or do you feel agitated and judgmental of their actions? The former means you're allowing, and no doubt transmitting lots of high vibes. The latter means your ego, or lower-vibrational self, has possessed your body.
"Yes Jeff, I get it, so how do I begin to accept people unconditionally for who they are and what they do?" (even when they're being stupid!) Foremost, it's important to understand we are all co-creating our realities - in other words, I'm creating my world, you're creating yours - and if our creations happen to bring us together, there's a Universal Law (LoA!) causing this to occur.
Of course, the implication here is that the 'knuckleheads' in your life don't just randomly show up - YOU attract them! We are constantly manifesting into our lives exactly what we're vibrating outward. So when you get right down to it, it's YOU who should be the recipient of your critical eye! And while I could suggest you start judging yourself with more scrutiny, you're probably doing a fine job of this already - which is precisely where the trouble originates.
We tend to be so hard on ourselves (i.e. I'm not good enough) that other things start showing up as not good enough too. And when we perceive things as being 'not right', we often project those (self) judgments onto the outside world (i.e. no one else is good enough either). So the golden ticket is to accept, love, and allow yourself first - then it will be a breeze to allow others as well.
Remember, no one on the exterior has any power to bring about your anxiety, frustration, or dissatisfaction - it's all YOU! You're the source, you're creating everything. When you realize this and take complete responsibility - for your own actions, choices, and life - you'll no longer need to measure what anyone else is doing. And you'll look at everyone with the kindness and compassion they deserve, finally seeing them for who they truly are - other people on their own unique spiritual journeys, just as you are on yours.
Until next time...
With love,
-Jeff
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